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Truth & Lies Behind Donald and Melania’s Marriage

September 29, 2018 | Ryan


Since Donald Trump started running for president, things have been pretty weird for everyone. While many people can’t believe how truly unusual life has become, one of the most surprised has to be his wife, Melania. Only a few could possibly share the spotlight with the boisterous and chaotic current commander in chief, so it makes sense that little is known about the first lady.

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No first lady has ever gotten more attention than the president, so what’s happening now certainly falls in line with the way things have always been. But it feels a bit different, and possibly more sinister, than it did in the past. Is there something more to how hidden Melania often seems? Is she staying in the shadows on purpose, or is she being kept there?

A lot has been uncovered about Melania and her relationship with Trump. From her interesting past to their first meeting and beyond, this article will lay everything out from then to now. Unfortunately, all of this information only makes things weirder, but it’s important to know what’s really going on behind the closed doors of the most important office in the world.

Melanija Knavs

Before we look at what’s been happening in the last couple years, from the campaign to the presidency, it’s necessary to go back and set the scene around who Melania really is and where she comes from. She was born Melanija Knavs on April 26, 1970 in Novo Mesto, and grew up in Sevnica, in the Yugoslav republic of Slovenia.

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Her father, Viktor Knavs, was from the nearby town of Radeče, and managed car and motorcycle dealerships for a socially-owned vehicle manufacturer. Her mother Amalija came from the village of Raka and worked as a patternmaker at the children’s clothing manufacturer Jutranjka in Sevnica. As a child, Melania and other children of workers at the factory participated in fashion shows that featured children’s clothing.

She has an older sister, Ines, who is an artist and her “longtime confidant”, and an older half-brother, whom she reportedly has never met, from her father’s previous relationship. Melania grew up in a modest apartment in a housing block in Sevnica, in the Lower Sava Valley. This is about as far as one could be from where she ended up later in life, but first…

Life Before Trump

As a teenager, Melania’s family moved to a two-story house in Sevnica. By high school, she had moved once again to a high-rise apartment in Ljubljana where she attended the Secondary School of Design and Photography. Melania studied architecture and design at the University of Ljubljana for one year before she dropped out to pursue a career in modeling…

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Melania had been modeling since she was five years old, which led to commercial work in her teens. At sixteen, she posed for the Slovenian fashion photographer Stane Jerko. When she started working professionally, she transcribed the Slovene version of her last name “Knavs” to the German version “Knauss.” But it wouldn’t be her last big name change…

At eighteen, she signed with a modeling agency in Milan, Italy. In 1992, she was named runner-up in the Jana Magazine “Look of the Year” contest, held in Ljubljana, which promised its top three contestants an international modeling contract. She then modeled for fashion houses in Paris and Milan, where in 1995 she met Metropolitan Models co-owner Paolo Zampolli, a friend of her future husband Donald Trump…

Modeling Career

At the time, Zampolli was on a scouting trip in Europe. When he met Melania, he urged her to travel to the United States, where he said he would like to represent her. In 1996, she moved to Manhattan and he arranged for her to share an apartment with photographer Matthew Atanian in Zeckendorf Towers in Union Square. So how did things go for her once she came to America?

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Melania did 10 paid modeling jobs in the U.S. in the seven weeks before she received legal permission to work in the country. If you do the math, that’s not a lot of work. She really struggled to consistently book gigs due to what her old roommate says was her stiffness as a model. This really worked against her.

She found herself as far away from home as humanely possible, with no college degree or professional prospects beyond a few modeling jobs that hadn’t gone well. This was a very dark time for the future first lady, but things were about to change. It’s still up for debate if this change would be for better or for worse…

Life Before Melania

Most know that Trump was an international businessman and moderate celebrity before his time as president, but not as many realize that he was married twice before Melania. In 1977, Trump wed Czech model Ivana Zelníčková. Over the course of the decade they were together, a lot happened that would follow Trump for the rest of his life…

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They had three children: Donald Jr. in 1977, Ivanka in 1981, and Eric in 1984. Ivana became a naturalized United States citizen in 1988. Her daughter Ivanka is the most well known of the Trump kids, but the public has become more than aware of all of them over the last few years. Donald and Ivana divorced in 1992, following Trump’s affair with actress Marla Maples.

On October 13, 1993, Maples gave birth to Trump’s daughter, who was named Tiffany in honor of high-end retailer Tiffany & Company. Maples and Trump were married two months later in December 1993. They divorced in 1999, and Tiffany was raised by Marla in California. Tiffany Ariana Trump is an American socialite, model, and Georgetown Law student in Washington, D.C. All of this happened well before Donald met Melania…

How They Met

In New York City in 1998, the two strangers were both attending a party for Fashion Week. She had been invited by the aforementioned Paolo Zampolli, an Italian businessman who had previously convinced Melania to move to the United States. While he’d done his best to her launch her modeling career, it hadn’t worked. Yet…

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At the time, Melania was just 28 years old, and Donald was 52, an age difference that most would consider highly off limits. Also, he was on a date with another woman, but this wouldn’t stop him from noticing her across the room. In an interview the couple did with People, Trump said: “I saw Melania and I said, ‘Who is that?'” It was all downhill, or uphill depending on how you look at it, from there…

Apparently, seeing Melania drove him crazy. He told People, “She was a very successful model. She was terrific.” This is classic Trump, misremembering the facts to boost his image. But either way, his first impression of her was enough to cause him to do something that would be inappropriate and out of character for almost anyone else…

Snubbed

On that September night, at the Times Square nightclub the Kit Kat Club, Trump’s date Celina Midelfart, a Norwegian businesswoman, went to use the restroom. As soon as she left, Donald approached Melania so that he could hit on her. But things wouldn’t go as well as he’d hoped…

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Donald asked for her number, and she said no. Melania told People, “I had heard he was a ladies’ man, and so I said, ‘I’m not one of the ladies.” But it wasn’t a flat out snub. She did something that he definitely wasn’t used to. Instead of giving into his advances, Melania took control. During the conversation, Trump even admitted he’d sent his date to the restroom on purpose.

After refusing to give him her number, she asked for his. Melania believes that women can learn a lot about a man’s intentions by what number they give, depending on whether it’s their office phone or personal line. Trump so was desperate he gave her all of his numbers, but she didn’t use them for a while. After the party, she went on a modeling gig in the Caribbean, but when she returned…

Early Courtship

Melania called Trump and he was thrilled. Their first date was the 1990s Greenwich Village hot spot Moomba, a spot they would frequent throughout the beginning of their relationship. Apparently, they really hit it off and ended up talking all night. According to the couple and those close to them, they got exactly what they wanted out of each other.

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Image is incredibly important to Trump, so dating models and showing them off has been a part of his social life since he was able to get them to go out with him. Melania fit the bill, and she became another one of his trophy girlfriends. In return, Melania got to enjoy the lavish lifestyle that his money provided. Would this be enough?

At the time, it absolutely was. Melania’s humble upbringing and years struggling in New York City had worn thin on the almost 30 year old woman, and she was more than ready to accept all that Trump had to offer. Beyond the money and luxury, Trump would also help her career. Her newfound fame led to a modeling spread in British GQ, with more to follow…

On and Off

With Trump’s help, Melania continued her modeling career. She enjoyed multiple American magazine shoots, including In Style Weddings, New York Magazine, Avenue, Philadelphia Style, Vanity Fair, Vogue and the Sports Illustrated Swimsuit Issue. While they were dating, her family relocated to New York, where they now live for most of the year. Everything seemed to be going great, but…

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She struggled with trust issues early on, and this began to weigh heavy on their relationship. Then, in the year 2000, Trump announced that he would be running for president as a Reform Party candidate. When she was asked by The New York Times what her role would be if he were to become president, she replied: “I would be very traditional, like Betty Ford or Jackie Kennedy.”

In 2000, she appeared with Donald Trump while he campaigned, but this stress was too much to take. The couple separated, and after the breakup, Trump told The New York Times that, “Melania is an amazing woman, a terrific woman, a great woman, and she will be missed.” Within a few months, and his failed presidential aspirations, they got back together.

Back Together

Over the next four years, they continued this cycle of dating, breaking up and getting back together. Little is known about exactly what went on during this time, but it’s easy tp imagine the basics. Trump more than likely continued to pursue wealth and fame, while Melania attempted to keep her modeling career going…

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But she knew that the success she achieved with Donald’s help was the best she’d ever be able to do professionally. Issues in their relationship caused them to split, and surely every time she became single she hoped to be able to provide herself with the kind of lifestyle he’d used to keep her around. Unfortunately for Melania, this never happened, and she kept going back…

For Donald, who probably cheated and lied throughout their time together, became even more starved for sexual attention when they were apart. His money and notoriety helped him get women, but there was something about Melania that he couldn’t shake. It’s not hard to trace that desire back to their first meeting, when she rejected him and dominate the extremely important first impression. Because of this, he never stopped chasing her…

The Proposal

In April of 2004, four years after they started their on-and-off relationship, Trump proposed to Melania with a 15-karat, $1.5 million diamond ring. This was a big moment for her, as she had never been married, unlike Donald, and was still not fully used to this kind of extravagant wealth…

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But she said yes, possibly against her better judgement. Even though he’d been married twice before, this was a huge step for him too, one he had plenty of time to think about over the years they were together leading up to the proposal. Despite their multiple attempts to separate, they kept going back to each other, and this said a lot about how they truly felt…

According to Donald, Melania was different from his first two wives, Ivana Trump and Marla Maples, who were much more high maintenance. The biggest difference between them and Melania is that they came from wealth and privilege, she didn’t. With this in mind, Melania agreed to sign a prenup. Gossip columnist Liz Smith said Trump told her, “The beautiful thing is that she agrees with it. She knows I have to have that.”

The Wedding

On January 22, 2005, they married in an Anglican service at The Episcopal Church of Bethesda-by-the-Sea in Palm Beach, Florida, followed by a reception in the ballroom at Trump’s Mar-a-Lago estate. The crazy wedding was a big affair that attracted many famous people, as well as the press. These kinds of events typically capture the attention of the public for whatever reason…

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It was attended by celebrities such as Katie Couric, Matt Lauer, Rudy Giuliani, Heidi Klum, Star Jones, P. Diddy, Shaquille O’Neal, Barbara Walters, Conrad Black, Regis Philbin, Simon Cowell, Kelly Ripa, and a famous couple that most wouldn’t be associated with the Trumps, but more on them later. Read ahead to find out who they are and learn more about their relationship with the Trumps…

At the reception, Billy Joel serenaded the crowd with “Just the Way You Are” and supplied new lyrics to the tune of “The Lady Is a Tramp”. She wore a $200,000 dress made by John Galliano of the house of Christian Dior. It took 550 hours to attach 1,500 crystals to her fancy gown. So who were the wedding’s most shocking guests?…

The Clintons

As hard as it is to believe, especially considering everything that happened during the 2016 election, then-Senator Hillary Clinton and former president Bill Clinton were good friends with the Trumps and happily attended their wedding. And they weren’t only there, they were also captured in the photo below having a great time.

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Apparently, the two couples were both living in New York and running in similar circles. At the time, Trump’s political beliefs were much more in line with theirs. According to reports, Donald and Bill even played golf together. It was also widely known at the time that their daughters, Ivanka and Chelsea, were also friends too. Many say this has since changed, more than likely because of their parents political disputes.

Donald and Bill both spoke highly of each other in the media, starting with Trump’s public sympathy for Bill during his sex scandal with Monica Lewinsky. He has since doubled down on this stance, largely because of his own assault accusations. Trump tends to go back and forth on most things, so he wasn’t always nice about the Clintons. But more often than not, he was.

Honeymoon At Mar-a-Lago

After the extravagant wedding and the big party that followed, it was time for a relaxing honeymoon at Mar-a-Lago. Mar-a-Lago is a resort and National Historic Landmark in Palm Beach, Florida, built from 1924 to 1927 by cereal-company heiress and socialite Marjorie Merriweather Post.

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The 126-room, 62,500-square-foot house contains the Mar-a-Lago Club, a members-only club with guest rooms, a spa, and other hotel-style amenities, with the Atlantic Ocean to the east and Florida’s Intracoastal Waterway to the west. At the time of her death in 1973, Post bequeathed the property to the National Park Service, hoping it could be used for state visits or as a Winter White House.

However, because the costs of maintaining the property exceeded the funds provided by Post. In 1985, Mar-a-Lago was purchased by Trump. His wife at the time, Ivana, was charged with running the property. Trump retained Mar-a-Lago through both of his divorces and his family maintains private quarters in a separate, closed-off area of the house and grounds. It is the second largest mansion in the state of Florida and the 20th largest mansion in the United States.

Starting A Family

So what came next for the newly married Trumps? Melania wanted kids, but it wasn’t as easy as she would’ve hoped. Not only was this transition difficult for the couple, but this is where their story takes a dark turn. If it wasn’t bad enough that they met while Trump was on a date with another woman, he then…

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Marie Claire reported that the Trumps have a contract that detailed the terms of her pregnancy with their baby. Donald was willing to let her have their child, but only if she stayed fit during the nine months and especially after giving birth. As shocking as it is to imagine anyone doing this to their spouse, it does seem like something Donald would support.

He wanted to make sure that she would get her pre-baby body back as soon as possible. You’d think he’d care more about her and the baby’s health, but apparently not. Conflicting reports claim this was not true. A spokesperson for Melania has said that Donald was a super supportive husband and father-to-be. Others don’t believe this, so what do you think?

Donald’s Affairs

It was bad enough that Donald essentially forced Melania to forgo her health and the health of their child in order to stay attractive to him, but what happened next was even worse. It was a problem that he’d brought into his previous relationships, and even Melania had struggled with it early on, but you’d think starting a family would help…

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Reports link Trump’s affair with adult film star Stephanie Clifford, also known as Stormy Daniels, back to before, during and after Melania was pregnant. More on her soon, but this was sadly not uncommon for Donald. He always had the reputation of being a playboy, and he loved this image, despite being married throughout a good chunk of his adult life.

At one point, there were even rumors that Donald wanted Playboy magazine to do a spread called Girls of Trump that would feature his employees. He would choose all of his most attractive staffers, including a former beauty queen secretary, to do nude modeling for the publication. Over the last couple decades, almost twenty women have accused Trump of sexual misconduct, going all the way back to the ’80s…

Stormy Daniels

The most well known of his affairs was with the aforementioned Stormy Daniels. Apparently, their scandal involves a nondisclosure agreement (NDA) signed by Trump’s personal lawyer Michael Cohen and the adult film actress just before the 2016 United States presidential election. After the existence of the NDA was revealed by The Wall Street Journal in January 2018, Daniels sued Trump and Cohen to argue that the agreement is invalid.

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The first reports of an alleged affair between Trump and Daniels were published in October 2011 by the blog The Dirty and the magazine Life & Style. Around the same time, Daniels talked about the alleged affair with the gossip magazine In Touch Weekly, which chose not to publish the interview after Cohen threatened to sue the magazine.

It has since been revealed that Trump paid her $130,000 to cover up the affair. In an interview with 60 Minutes on March 25, Daniels said that she and Trump had sex once, and that later she had been threatened in front of her infant daughter, and felt pressured to later sign a nondisclosure agreement. After this, more allegations would follow…

Karen McDougal

Karen McDougal is another woman who has come forward about her history with Trump. She is an American model and actress known for her appearances in Playboy magazine as Playmate of the Month for December 1997 and Playmate of the Year of 1998. In 2001, the readers of Playboy voted McDougal the runner-up of “The sexiest Playmate of the 1990s”. So what’s her story?…

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In November 2016, The Wall Street Journal reported that McDougal had told her friend that she had an affair with a married Donald Trump from 2006 to 2007, with various sources quoting that it had lasted from ten months to a year. This came out right before the election, but wasn’t enough to keep him from being elected.

During the affair, she met members of his family and he promised to buy her an apartment in New York. To avoid “paper trails”, Trump had McDougal pay for flight and hotel expenses when she flew to meet him, then he reimbursed her. McDougal ended the affair in April 2007 due to guilt and being offended by some of Trump’s comments. Meanwhile, Melania is raising their first child…

Barron

Barron William Trump was born March 20, 2006 and was baptized at The Episcopal Church of Bethesda-by-the-Sea in Palm Beach, Florida. He attended the Columbia Grammar & Preparatory School in Manhattan and is fluent in English and his mother’s native Slovene. During his early childhood, Barron made several television appearances, including on The Apprentice and The Oprah Winfrey Show.

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Despite his previous media appearances, he was rarely seen during the 2016 election because his mother wanted to keep him out of the spotlight. Melania has always been very protective of Barron. He is noted to be a fan of soccer, appearing in an Arsenal F.C. jersey and meeting D.C. United players at the Easter Egg Roll. In September 2017, he was selected to join the U-12 team for D.C. United’s Development Academy.

Barron did not immediately move into the White House when his father became president, but remained at Trump Tower with his mother until the end of the school year. Melania and Barron moved to the White House on June 11, 2017, and he now attends St. Andrew’s Episcopal School in Potomac, Maryland. But more on the campaign and election later…

But Are They Compatible?

With Barron born and their new family complete, what was the state of their marriage? While it’s Melania’s first, Donald had done this twice before, so he’d developed certain standards. The New Yorker has reported that Melania is “not a nagging wife”, which is incredibly important to Donald, no matter what the issue, like when it comes to…

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Apparently, when it comes to Melania’s home country of Slovenia, Donald couldn’t care less. He doesn’t acknowledge her upbringing or culture, but somehow, she doesn’t mind. Either that, or it does bother her and she’s just learned not to make a big deal out of it in fear that it would cause too much trouble in their marriage.

Melania said in the publication that, “I’m not that kind of wife who would say, ‘Learn this’ or ‘Learn that’.” This strange dynamic is frustrating enough as is, but it doesn’t stop there. In an interview with CNN in 2005, Trump claimed, “We literally have never had an argument. We just are very compatible.” This is hard to believe, especially considering something else that he requires to be a big part of their relationship…

Constant Praise

Not surprisingly, Trump demands constant praise and compliments from Melania, no matter what. In regard to the aforementioned New Yorker article, the publication got the sense that she never even teases Donald playfully, opting instead to always obediently support him. This has to be unbelievably difficult, now more than ever…

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Vanity Fair reported that Michael D’Antonio, author of The Truth About Trump, said that when he met the Trumps, Donald said to Melania multiple times, “Tell him I’m a really good husband.” She finally did, but was clearly reluctant. If he acts like this in public, what is their relationship like behind closed doors?

He has probably been like this his whole life, attempting to force every woman he’s even been with to be exactly the way he wants them to be. This explains why he wasn’t able to make his two previous marriages work, and why these women have been labeled “high maintenance.” Maybe they were more than reasonably uncomfortable with this arrangement. It also lends some insight into why he and Melania broke up multiple times before finally getting back together.

Too Much Information

If his need for constant praise and obedience isn’t enough, he seems to almost go out of his way to make this as difficult as possible for Melania. One of the things Donald has always been known for is his insanely personal and explicit interviews. He not only talks openly about many women he’s been with, but also shares private details about his current wife…

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Trump has made multiple appearances on Howard Stern where he discussed their sex life, claiming that at one point they made love several times a day, and admitted to groping her in public. On top of this, he also callously rated other women’s bodies. If that’s not bad enough, in another interview he said something so awful it’s hard to even think about…

GQ reported that once he actually said that if Melania was injured in a car accident, he would only stay with her if her breasts remained intact. Imagine someone saying something like that about you in public and then not being allowed to confront that person. Instead, being forced into obedience filled with compliments and support.

Gender Roles

This dynamic is part of a bigger requirement for Donald that sees him enforcing traditional gender roles in their family, meaning that Melania is required to be responsible for all the parenting duties. He said once on Stern, “Melania is a wonderful mother. She takes care of the baby and I pay all of the costs.” But how does she feel about this arrangement?…

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Melania told Parenting that being a full-time mom to Barron is her first job. While Donald has always spent a lot of time working on his business ventures, Melania also has goals of her own, but even then, she still has to be their son’s primary caregiver. Apparently, Barron rarely even spends time with his dad, but is always with his mom.

Melania was once asked about this, specifically if Donald ever helped take care of Barron, she said, “He didn’t change diapers and I am completely fine with that. … It’s very important to know the person you’re with. And we know our roles.” She has still presented a mostly positive picture of their family life, but surely there are more issues than they reveal publicly…

Running For President

Everything changed in June of 2015 when Trump announced he was running for President. While his celebrity kept them in the public eye up to this point, they would soon experience a level of fame and subsequent scrutiny that not many people in the history of modern civilization have ever been faced with.

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In November 2015, Melania was asked about her husband’s presidential campaign and replied: “I encouraged him because I know what he will do and what he can do for America. He loves the American people and he wants to help them.” But she ended up playing a relatively small role in her husband’s campaign, which is atypical of spouses of presidential candidates.

While Melania accompanied him to some campaign events, she spent most of her time with Barron in New York. His son made a total of three public appearances on the campaign trail, appearing at a campaign rally in South Carolina, and attending his father’s RNC acceptance speech and presidential victory speech. While absent from pre-inauguration events, Barron was at his father’s inauguration ceremony in January 2017 and some of the following events.

Sexual Assault

With their newfound fame, the Trumps would be put through the ringer multiple times, mostly because of how Donald handled himself during the campaign. In October of 2016, a now infamous video surfaced that caused Melania to take her first public position against Donald. The tape was recorded while he was on the set of Access Hollywood…

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During the election, The Washington Post published the video and an accompanying article about Trump and television host Billy Bush having “an extremely lewd conversation about women” in 2005. Trump and Bush were in a bus on their way to film an episode of the show when he described his attempt to seduce a married woman and indicated he might start kissing a woman that he and Bush were about to meet…

Trump added, “I don’t even wait. And when you’re a star, they let you do it. You can do anything. Grab them by the p—y. You can do anything.” Commentators and lawyers have described such an action as sexual assault. Melania released a statement saying, “the words my husband used are unacceptable and offensive to me” and that they don’t represent him accurately…

Locker Room Talk

While this was her first time condemning Donald publicly, she still took a supportive position. She has even gone out of her way to protect him from all of the sexual assault claims. Multiple women have spoken out, but Melania has said that she forgives him for anything he’s done in the past, and that America should too…

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People magazine reported that Melania feels we should “focus on the important issues facing our nation and the world.” She believes that is word is enough proof that he hasn’t done all of the things that these women claim. Melania has been quoted saying, “I know how some men talk, and that’s how I saw it. Sometimes I say I have two boys at home, I have my young son and I have my husband.”

Trump’s supported, including his wife, have labeled his words as “locker room talk” and “boy talk” which is extremely problematic considering everything that’s going on in the culture. While women coming forward with assault allegations has had a profound impact elsewhere, it doesn’t seem to hurt Trump. Melania even said, “Don’t feel sorry for me. I can handle everything.”

The Campaign

Sexual assault allegations weren’t the only controversy that took place while Donald was running for president. Melania even had her own scandal. On July 18, 2016, she gave a speech at the 2016 Republican National Convention which contained a paragraph that was nearly identical to a paragraph of Michelle Obama’s speech at the 2008 Democratic National Convention. When asked about the speech…

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Melania said she wrote the speech herself “with as little help as possible.” This didn’t help her case, and instead made people more upset that she was now blatantly lying about the plagiarism. Two days later, Trump staff writer Meredith McIver took responsibility and apologized for the “confusion”. But the drama wasn’t over…

Then, in February of 2017, Melania sued the Daily Mail for $150 million in damages over an August 2016 article that falsely alleged that she had worked for an escort service during her modeling days. The publication retracted the article, apologized, and printed the retraction from the blogger they were quoting. This would get even more complicated when…

Unexpected Victory

Against all odds, Trump won the election, and Melania’s life changed drastically due to her new position. In July 2016, her official website was redirected to trump.com. On Twitter, she stated that her site was outdated and did not “accurately reflect [her] current business and professional interests”. This would link back to the aforementioned lawsuit…

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The lawsuit stated that the article had ruined her “unique, once-in-a-lifetime opportunity” to establish “multimillion dollar business relationships for a multi-year term during which Plaintiff is one of the most photographed women in the world”. Her claim raised potential ethical questions with its implication that she intended to profit from being First Lady.

On February 18th, the lawsuit was amended, removing the language about her earning potential and focusing instead on emotional distress. In April of 2017, the parties settled the lawsuit and the Daily Mail issued a statement that said, “We accept that these allegations about Mrs Trump are not true and we retract and withdraw them.” The Mail agreed to pay her $2.9 million. Still, this revealed a dark side to how she was approaching the presidency…

The First Lady

In 2016, she told CNN her focus as First Lady would be to help women and children. She also said she would combat cyberbullying, especially among children. According to a friend, Melania didn’t want to be First Lady “come hell or high water.” Her communications director has since denied this claim…

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In regard to her official position, just days before the election, she told a crowd of supporters in Pennsylvania: “Our culture has gotten too mean and too rough, especially to children and teenagers. It is never OK when a 12-year-old girl or boy is mocked, bullied, or attacked. It is terrible when that happens on the playground. And it is absolutely unacceptable when it is done by someone with no name hiding on the internet.”

This caused many to wonder how she felt about her husband’s history of bullying. Melania said she rebuked him “all the time” but that “he will do what he wants to do in the end”. She also became a fashion icon after the inauguration, with various media outlets reporting on her fashion choices. More to come later about her experience as First Lady, but first…

Ivanka Vs Melania

Every stepmother-daughter relationship is complicated, especially when it comes to such a public life. Ivanka and Melania are the two most important women to Trump, but they rarely see eye-to-eye. They both helped with his campaign and advise the president while working on their own causes. When Melania became First Lady, Ivanka became an official federal employee…

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The two women are only 11 years apart, which just adds to the tension between them. Both are raising children while working in the political arena, and despite having a lot in common, this doesn’t seem to help how they feel about each other. They have both spoken publicly about their relationship, but many feel they’re just putting on aires.

In Harper’s Bazaar, Melania said of her stepchildren, “They are grown-up, I don’t see myself as their mother. I am their friend, and I’m here when they need me.” In her book, Women Who Work, Ivanka thanked her for the “support and friendship” and said she has a “heart of gold.” But as it goes with these kinds of people in these types of situations, things aren’t always as they seem…

Donald’s Love

Sources close to the women told Vanity Fair that they have “observed a frostiness between the two,” but refused to elaborate. Many feel this is because most people around the president don’t take Melania seriously, opting instead to consider Ivanka the unofficial first lady. This is due to Melania’s extended and consistent absence from the White House.

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Donald has been very open about Ivanka being his favorite child. According to Daily Mail Online, a spokesperson for the White House claims that the two women are close, but sources close to the family feel a divide started when Ivanka began taking over some of Melania’s duties. Many feel Donald’s history with Ivanka is behind the feud…

Trump has said multiple things about his daughter that many feel cross the line into creepy and gross. He regularly comments on how attractive she is and that he compares other woman to Ivanka’s physical features. Donald has been seen embracing Ivanka in ways that are totally inappropriate for a father and daughter, such as where he places his hand on her body and how he looks at her. This can’t be easy for Melania…

The Trumps

So how does the rest of the family feel about Melania? For the most part, everyone else seems to be too busy to worry about her, and similarly, she has enough going on herself. Unfortunately, a lot of these issues go back to Donald. Most of his immediate family wish he would act more presidential, and have been quoted saying as much…

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On The Oprah Winfrey Show, Ivanka said, “There’s definitely times when I was younger, I was going, ‘Did you have to say that, Dad?’” Similarly, Melania wishes he would tweet less because he has such a hard time controlling himself when he’s upset. He’s behaved this way publicly, causing many to question what he’s like to his family behind closed doors…

In an interview with Fox News, Melania said, “He has great nights and he can be presidential, but sometimes he just like, he cannot stand that somebody attacks him. Because if somebody attacks him he will punch back 10 times harder.” On top of this, Ivana, Donald’s first wife, calls herself the first lady. Melania fired back through her communications director, Stephanie Grisham, that Ivana’s words are “attention-seeking and self-serving noise.”

Body Double

All of this drama has created a very uncomfortable life for Melania. Due to some unusual things about her behavior, which will be discussed soon, some people have a theory that Melania has a body double that stands in for her on multiple occasions. Major news outlets have claimed this is false, but many online think it’s a conspiracy…

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According to Snopes, “A bizarre rumor holding that President Trump was using a Melania Trump body double at a press conference took hold on social media in October 2017 after Facebook user Andrea Wagner Barton posted photographic “evidence” of the charge… [and] a video purportedly showing this “fake” Melania Trump was also widely circulated on social media.”

The fact checking site also recounts the reappearance of the conspiracy: “The “Melania body double” rumor came back for second lap around the track in July 2018, as pictures of President Trump and the first lady while they were in Brussels for the NATO Summit showed the president accompanied by a woman who seemingly resembled, but did not look exactly like, Melania.” Again, this has been largely shut down in the media, but what do you think?

Life In The White House

Things have to be going pretty poorly for these kinds of rumors to start. Even though Melania assumed the role of First Lady on January 20, 2017, it was a slow start. Sources close to the Trumps say she never even wanted to move into the White House, which explains why it took her five months to do so. How did she explain this?

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Melania claimed she stayed in New York because she wanted Barron to finish out the school year before making the big move, but many question this, as it’s very unusual compared to previous presidential transitions. She claimed she was excited to step into the role of first lady, but those around her sensed reluctance. This is probably because…

Melania really values her independence, and this new phase has almost completely compromised this aspect of her life. Her Secret Service code name is “Muse”, which begins with the same letter as Trump’s code name, “Mogul”, per Secret Service tradition. Her staff of nine is less than half of that of the two previous first ladies, and she’s the only the second foreign-born woman to hold this title…

Held Prisoner

For many family members of newly elected presidents, this transition wasn’t as difficult. Not to say it isn’t hard on everyone to one degree or another, but certainly not as tough as it has seemed for Melania. Others had time to prepare as a family so that the abrupt and extreme change did as little damage as possible, but not the Trumps…

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It has been widely reported since the election that Trump himself might not have really wanted to actually be president. Some feel he was simply using the campaign as a promotional stunt for his business and entertainment endeavors. So when he won, those around him were probably as, if not more, surprised and taken aback by the new reality that collided into their lives…

Melania went from a happy mother to one of the most scrutinized women in pop culture. Apart from the almost complete disintegration of her privacy and freedom, she is now forever linked to an incredibly controversial politician who is making it even harder for her to experience any kind of normalcy or comfort. So much of what she does is now closely monitored…

Under A Microscope

For example, in January 2018, The Wall Street Journal reported that during a three-month period where she lived in New York the previous year, she took Air Force jet flights between New York City, Florida and Washington at a cost of more than $675,000 to taxpayers. In comparison, former first lady Michelle Obama’s solo travel cost an average of about $350,000 a year.

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Then, on the night of the State of the Union address, she broke with tradition when she rode with her guests in a separate car in the Presidential motorcade, rather than riding with her husband in the presidential limousine. This was one of many similar decisions, which will be discussed soon, that caused people to question the quality of their relationship.

The Be Best campaign, which finally put a label on her anti-bullying position, has also been criticized due to her proximity to Trump. Beyond the hypocrisy of the campaign, a booklet used to promote the movement, claiming to be written by Melania, is almost identical to a 2014 document. This is the second instance of plagiarism attached to the First Lady. So what has all this done to her marriage?…

Marriage Problems

Considering everything that’s been discussed in this article, from the trust issues and manipulation to the affairs and destruction of her private life, Melania is understandably unhappy with her husband. She eats meals without him and travels separately, even when they’re going to the same place. He makes little to no time for his son, who is always with his loving mother.

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Melania tried to spin this when she explained to the Washington Post in July of 2016, “We like to do what we like to do, and we give ourselves and each other space. I allowed him to do, to have his passion and his dreams come true, and he let me do the same.” Maybe, but…

It’s gotten so bad that there’s a rumor in Washington, D.C. that Melania doesn’t even live in the White House. Instead, she stays closer to their son’s school in the suburbs. Her teams tries to laugh this off as untrue gossip, even referring to it as an “urban legend” in a statement to People. But all signs point to these kinds of rumors being grounded in truth, and to add insult to injury…

Her 48th Birthday

You’d think the First Lady’s birthday, especially considering all the horrible things about Donald’s affairs and sex tapes and cover-ups that are constantly in the news, would be a great opportunity for him to do something really nice for Melania. Well spoiler alert, she’ll just have to wait until Christmas to hopefully receive an adequate gift…

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Donald showed Melania how much he cares by giving her nothing but some flowers and a birthday card, which more than likely were picked out by someone else. On a call with Fox & Friends, he was asked about this, and said, “I better not get into that because I may get in trouble. Maybe I didn’t get her so much. I got her a beautiful card, you know I’m very busy to be running out looking for presents. I got her a beautiful card and some beautiful flowers.”

It’s one thing not to get your wife a proper birthday gift, but to then make excuses for it on national television, definitely helps to explain why Melania has seemed so cold towards Donald over the last couple years…

PDA

Since the inauguration, the public has noticed that the Trumps’ affection towards each other is either nonexistent or obviously forced. Some of the moments that have been caught on camera are downright cringeworthy, the likes of which have never been seen before in regard to highest office in the United States of America. There have been multiple times when Melania appears to simply refuse to hold his hand, and she’s not hiding it.

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Before the election, Melania would regularly post love notes to Donald on social media, but that has basically stopped, even on Valentine’s Day. This year, she tweeted that would be spending the holiday with the National Institutes of Health. If they can’t even fake it on February 14th, what are the other 364 days like?

Melania has blatantly refused to touch Trump in public, and often won’t even walk next to him. She has been spotted clearly dodging his advances on their trip to Israel last May, during a vacation to Rome later that month, and while they were boarding Marine One for a trip to Ohio. So will their marriage even last much longer?

The Jacket

Only time will tell what’s in store for the longevity of Donald and Melania’s marriage, which many feeling she’ll file for divorce the moment he’s out of office. Between now and then, we can expect more unusual behavior from the First Lady, like what happened recently with the jacket she wore during her border visit…

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Throughout all the turmoil surrounding Trump’s immigration policies, which have resulted in countless families being separated and detained under horrible conditions, Melania thought it would be a good idea to wear a jacket that said, “I really don’t care. Do u?” Her team insists there was no hidden meaning behind the fashion choice, but that doesn’t seem possible.

Donald tweeted that it was a message to the media, but this felt like more damage control. Others close to the First Lady say it was directed at anyone criticizing her choice to visit the border. Again, feels like spin. Either way, it shows that’s she’s beginning to lose interest in trying to avoid controversy, and maybe it’s the first in many public missteps to come in the wake of such a tumultuous marriage…

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